Question from a student at UConn: What
or who can people turn to when they are having problems coming
out as gay or lesbian or just need support?
Unlike some other minority groups, the university does not
have a person officially appointed to deal specifically with
gay/lesbian issues. However, most counseling centers provide
services for "sexual issues" - which include orientation.
In addition, if you are interested in talking with other gay/lesbian
students, contact your campus gay/lesbian organization, which
provides a number of supportive, educational, and social activities.
from a student at Emory U: As a gay
student, I'm tired of hearing people assume everyone is straight.
It makes it hard for me to "come out" and tell anyone about
who I am - even to my friends. At times, I feel isolated and
left out. Are people so narrow-minded that they don't think
anyone is gay or are they just homophobic?
It's hard to say what might be going on. Heterosexism,
the assumption that everyone is or should be heterosexual,
is a prevalent bias in our culture; homophobia is defined
as an intense dislike or fear of gay men and lesbian women,
as well as the fear of being perceived as homosexual. I would
not assume that your friends are intentionally meaning to
alienate you. It may be that they are not aware of what you
view as their heterosexism. If you feel comfortable, I encourage
you to talk with your close friends about this. I also suggest
you get in touch with the gay/lesbian/bi student group. They
may be able to offer you the support you are looking for.